Well, on second thoughts there are people who’d still call me a baby and their number is more than two, but I digress again… In my experience of talking to, consoling and counselling scores of young people like you, I’ve observed that there are three golden rules of dealing with parents who are real tough nuts to crack, and I thought I’ll lay them down today, fuming as I am. And you have no idea about the power of that belief. Again, you need to choose the option that makes you the least unhappy: Option #1: Embark on a radically new life.
Have you noted that I said “dealing with”, not “convincing”? A life with the man/woman you love, a life of absolute freedom, but one which offers drastically lower levels of material comfort than you currently enjoy.
Later when you bring up the question of marriage with your parents, you’re talking about someone they know very well.
Hence convincing your parents of a love marriage with the person they know so well and for so long would be much easier. Convince your parents of your love marriage by giving them a reality check: Nothing is as convincing as reality.
In order to convince your parents of your love marriage, give them real life examples of happy and successful “love marriages”.
Don’t forget to also throw in a few examples of people you know whose marriages were arranged and have turned out to be unhappy. Convince your parents of your love marriage on the basis of compatibility: Explain to your parents the importance of mutual compatibility and understanding in a marriage, which essentially needs to be gauged (to the extent possible) before taking the final decision.
If I could find the me of your age somewhere I’d have called myself a baby. If you have to take a stand that involves sacrificing someone’s happiness for someone else’s, whose happiness will you choose? Does that mean money is the only language that you can use – even with your closest family? But it gives you the mental strength and confidence to even believe that you can make your own decisions. If between the two of you you’re earning an amount which won’t allow for the maintenance of the same standard of living you currently enjoy – well, that’s a call you need to take.
So, take a stroll down memory lane to remember all of our past Word of the Year selections.
If you’ve been following Love in India’s romantic messages for a while, you’d know that we’ve already talked about inter-caste marriages and inter-religion marriages.
Read more about that process and what the bill does here. Contact your state representative and senator TODAY. Adult adoptees’ access to their own original birth certificates has had NO IMPACT on abortion rates in the United States.
In fact, in states that allow adoptees to access their own original birth certificates, the abortion rate is generally lower than the national average, while adoption rates are higher.